I would be even more direct....I would sit her down (When she is in a good mood) and ask where are we as a married couple? Do you want to recover the marriage and the relationship? If so we need counseling and you need to move off the couch. Moving into the bedroom doesn't mean you have to have sex thats up to you but I need to know where you stand.

But I am more of a sh@# or get of the pot person!@!! ;\)