If they are still seeing W's C, then you might need to look into an alternative. Any C in their right mind would NEVER advocate children be put in a decision making position when it means the demise of their family.
What Corey said! I do have to say your W could be making up this weird C stuff she is saying. I don't believe anything WAS say. Also even if her C is saying you should have family convos about separation or D, I'm sure the C doesn't intend or expect that your W turns them into twisted abusive discussions like she does. I don't think her C would agree with what she is doing. That C might be fine, but I think you maybe at least have some input and discussion with her and explain what is going on and give the C a chance to discuss/explain that. If the C does agree with what your W is doing, then I say find a new C immediately!!! Karen
I do have to say your W could be making up this weird C stuff she is saying. I don't believe anything WAS say. Also even if her C is saying you should have family convos about separation or D, I'm sure the C doesn't intend or expect that your W turns them into twisted abusive discussions like she does. I don't think her C would agree with what she is doing. That C might be fine, but I think you maybe at least have some input and discussion with her and explain what is going on and give the C a chance to discuss/explain that. If the C does agree with what your W is doing, then I say find a new C immediately!!! 
Karen
