Welcome back. Just reading along.....you and all your friends. I am sorry to hear that there is no improvement in the situation, even after the trip. I hope things turn around for you soon. It looks to my untrained eye like you guys are stuck in neutral and nobody wants to make a move. I am sure both you and your husband have your justifications but someone will have to stick their neck out, take the bull by the horns (please add your own cliche here)....if this relationship has any chance of going forward.
Enjoy your time away from work. Take some time for yourself. recharge your batteries.