What a way to begin 2009. I felt I should start a new thread given the situation. W. and I were together 8 years. She suddenly left me just over a year ago. The reasons never quite added up, seemed like lots of MLC stuff. We had a "trial separation" (her term) for 6 months, during which time she maintained very regular contact via email but we hardly ever saw each other. Went to a few sessions of MC, which seemed to focus on her issues, but it went nowhere and she ended the relationship spring 2007. I was so devastated, so emotionally drained. A lot of really difficult and painful things happened last year. We still own a house together though she hasn't lived here for a year. Little contact over the last several months, by my choosing.
Very slowly, through all my own emotional ups and downs and intense grief through Christmas, I was slowly trying to look ahead. Then tonight (Jan 1) I got a call from a woman I didn't know. She introduced herself as the w. of the man my w. is having an affair with and living with. I just found this out a couple of hours ago. I am so devastated all over again. Apparently, they are now living together and he is introducing her to his children as "his g/f".
His w. said she was so completely shattered by this in the last year, but was shocked that I didn't know they were together. She has known for most of the last year that there was someone else, but just got confirmation today that it was my w. She called me because w's name comes up still listed with my phone #. So she was wanting to call and confront W, that's how we came to talk.
I want to throw up. I feel the same nausea that I felt when the first bomb was dropped on me. I thought an A. was possible, but to have it confirmed like this (and to know the OP) is so sickening to me. I feel so angry and shattered and sad. I am still in pieces a year after she left and there she is with him: older, more money, very successful, world traveller, etc. Even found out she was on a vacation with him while we were in couple C. She sent me emails while away on this trip. I was so stupid. He was there together with her. He was M. 35 years.
I am hurting so much. I 've gone through SUCH pain in the last year, this is just another terrible blow. Any help or feedback would be appreciated. I feel really distraught right now.
