Hi nlt, Yes, this is a journey that really tests our moral character. It seems to me that you are trying very hard to stay strong and do the noble/classy thing - to forgive your H.
I'm doing my best!! You are so right, this does test our moral character & I could have done some things that were not very good after the OW sent me a "thank you" for my H email & for not suing her. But, I didn't & I think I'll be the one rewarded in time. It doesn't really feel like it right now.
nlt, Yes, you will be the one rewarded when it is all said and done. You are a very classy lady and by not responding to the ow's response, shows just how classy you are.
Nlt, you are going to be okay. You are not the one that felt you had to run away to another country just to live your life. You are facing your pain and suffering head on. Your h isn't doing that. But you know what? When the dust settles and your heart has mended and you are finally getting to the point that little things aren't as painful, that's when your h will begin to feel the pain and agony that he put you through. It happens all of the time. He will then have to face his demons and realize what he has lost in his life. The question then will be....are you still there for him or will you have moved on to a better and happier life after all of this?
Nlt, enjoy the rest of the holiday as it is quickly coming to an end. Spend the last few days w/your parents and enjoy doing things w/them. I know that they've enjoyed your company and you dog's company as well.
Not only is she classy but she is very pretty, too.
nlt: have a great day!!
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Thank you for all the compliments!!! I really appreciate it!!
Today has not been a good day for me! My oldest dog is in the hospital tonight. She was not eating & I could tell she was weak so I called my vet & he said I should take her here. I didn't get to see the normal vet that I always see but the woman was nice but said she felt like she needed to be put on fluids & kept over the weekend. I'm not crazy about her staying all weekend so I will go see her tomorrow & see about bringing her home to my parents house. I cried all the way home!!!! According to her blood work she is pretty sick right now & they said if she didn't get help she wouldn't make it another week. I called my vet in Nashville & he told me to tell them to also put her on antibiotics so maybe all this will help. I miss her so bad & sure do wish my H was here to help me with this!!
I called them a little bit ago & they said she was resting & doing great right now, so I'll go visit tomorrow & see how she is doing. I dread the day that I have to give her up, especially with H not here. Last time we lost a dog we were together & helped each other. Ok, we won't think about giving her up right now!! I just can't!
nlt, I'm sorry about your dog. Thank goodness there is a vet there that would take her in and keep her. I hope she's feeling well enough to travel in a couple of days so that you can get her back home and to your regular vet.
It's never easy to give up a pet because they have loved you unconditionally. Your dog has been there for the ups and downs in the last few years. I lost my cat a year and half ago and it's still not an easy thing for me to think about. He had been with me for almost 17 years and yes, even through the mlc w/my xh. I do have some wonderful memories of my cat and I carry them in my heart and pull them out from time to time when I get a bit blue and I have photos all over the place.
Nlt, be sure to take as many photos as you can of your dog when she comes home. It's very important to have them done. The memories will help you when the time is right to let her go.
I'm keeping her in my thoughts and prayers and do hope that you can get her back home safe and sound.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Thank you both so much for you thoughts & prayers!!! This dog has been with me through so much!! I know eventually I will have to give her up but not just now!
I haven't heard anymore from the vet so I'm sure she is all right. I love my other dog too so much but this dog has been with me thru everthing. My H found her & brought her home to me one month after my brother had died so she really has been with me thru a lot!
I told her when I left her tonight that I loved her & to hang in there that I still needed her. This is really hard especially now, but again I won't think about it right now. I pray she will be all right!!!
NLT sorry about your dog. I do know what you mean. I lost my beloved dog of 13 years a year ago. I had to put him to sleep. I still am not completely over his loss.
H was not there for me a year ago. It was a dog that h got for me when I was dating him. I had so many good memories with him and he was there for me after h left.
Hang in there. It does get better.
Me 50 H 42 S 22 S 9 D 7 M 12 T 17 H moved out 8/2006 H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks H moved home 5/2011 for good
"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"
