I'm so glad you had a good new years eve!! That sounded like fun.
I know for some it doesn't matter but for my H's family it did. His mother is something else. She is the boss, she is never wrong & I always felt sorry for his Dad. When he would try to tease with her she would get so mad & when his Dad went on oxygen she told me that she couldn't stay with him 24 hours a day to wait on him. She knew that made me mad b/c my Mom was with my CP brother for almost 36 years, 24/7. After she had a stroke his Dad took care of her until he died. He was actually happier b/c he felt needed before her stroke he would just sit in his chair & do nothing, he couldn't even watch TV, she had total control. I could tell she never cared for my H as much as she did the middle son & the older brother & my H always knew it. It is a strange & disfunctional family. His middle brother does support him but they thought OW had money (she doesn't), his wife has money & that is why he has stayed with her. That was never an issue with my H, in fact he didn't want any part of their money until this OW came along & then he tried to get close to them. He only wants to be around them when he needs them, the brother doesn't see that but the brother's wife see's it. Other than that he never was close. He didn't tell any of them about OW until after I found out & then he didn't tell his mother until she got smart with me & I told her that he had done me wrong & she knew it. That was last Xmas. His oldest brother lives in Scotland & he doesn't approve of what he has done. The middle brother & their mom lives in KY. I had a really good R with his family, I was the favorite of the DIL's with his mom & his dad. The middle brother liked me as long as H liked me but H told lies & he believed him. I know he was only covering what he had done. His SIL talked to me & told me that herself. She told me that all he was saying she knew was not true b/c she knew how I was.
I am a survivor & I will get thru this. I try not to dwell on what he has done to me. When I think about it I just stop & say "H, I forgive you & bless you". I'm working on me & being a better person & growing closer to Him. I do hope & pray for my H's return but I just don't know. I do believe there is such a thing as mental telepathy & sometimes there is such a strong feeling, but I really don't know for sure.
Thank you so much for your advice!!! I really appreciate it!!! I am working on me. Sometimes I have a pity party, but for me I just feel like he is on a trip & will be back. Not sure it that will happen but sometime I feel that way, then I think about who & where he is, that's when I stop & say "H, I forgive you". I have to do that for me!!
I am doing my best to turn it over to God, "let go let God". That is easier said that done, I'm really trying but I'm not exactly sure how. I'm working on it!!!
Thanks again!!! This site is wonderful & I appreciate everyone on here & all the advice & support!!
