I am so glad you had fun with your friends and went out dressed as a pirate! You are delightful!!
wow, what good news!!! This is really exciting!!!! um, if I heard anything nearly as encouraging in my situation I probably would be walking on air/puking with excitement.
i know that people in RL have sometimes very different ideas... but I would just stay cool for now. It sounds like he is REALLY conflicted, I mean at least about finding resolve to take action. So trying to seduce him would probably make him feel... like pants right now. It doesn't sound like it would actually be that much fun for him. Let him come to you!!! Seriously!!! Keep doing what you are doing!!! You are irresistable, right?? And be patient!! Just because he is ready to dump Helen doesn't mean he will show up on your doorstep by January 3rd. He probably SHOULD take some time alone after that to get his head back in order. Unless you want to be welcoming him home into your arms when he is a total friggin' mess!!
I think it's interesting what you said about feeling non-plussed by his behavior. I appreciate your honesty with yourself and with us, in that you shared that!
I might be totally off-base here, but i guess one thing I've noticed in your sitch, and maybe this has changed, is sometimes it seems like you don't have faith in him to pull through this journey on his own. I know it is a really fine line to walk with him sometimes sounding almost suicidal. Obviously you want to be there for him, and shelter and hold and guide him. But... don't you want to be with a man who wants to shelter and guide and hold his own self? And maybe he needs a chance to pull through and face his own demons and clean up himself inside? And then run home into your loving (toned and cute) arms? Do you hear what I'm saying here? I would say, give him some time to FIND his own strength.
And I really, really, really think you should read "passionate marriage"!!! what are you waiting for???
happy new year, ali! thank you for all your love and friendship this past year. (not to mention the silly eyeballs picture)!!
congratulations on your AWESOME WORK!!! feel encouraged and joyful!! and pat yourself on the back, and then, do a backflip!! in those new boots of yours LOVE TRANSFORMER
