Anyone have an MLC'er Living At Home?

[ThinkingItThru]

Today didn't get any better. I supposed that after almost a week of no contact, H might miss me and the kids a bit so I called him this morning to let him know that we were on the way home and did he want to meet us to have lunch.

He said that he would meet up with us later, he was out running around. Silly me I asked what? He said he was at an arcade. Strange. I didn't ask anymore questions, but my daughter called him and bless her heart she asked him questions!

-Where are you?
-Why?
-Who are you with?

Answers - At the arcade playing video games with EA. And he doesn't know when he'll be done. My kids are so sweet and think this is just fine.

I made my stops on the way home and he still wasn't here when we got home. Since the kids had a friend coming over, I said to heck with this, I'm not waiting around. So I changed clothes, redid my makeup, put on some perfume and called a girlfriend to go out.

I got about half way to her house (which is about an hour drive) and H called me. He was home now and sounded like he was in high spirits.

-Where are you? - On my way to girlfriends.
-What are you doing? - We're going out.
-Who with? - friends
-What friends? - I don't know...girlfriends friends.
-Well if you're going to cop an attitude, I'm not going to talk to you anymore. - I'm sorry if you think I have an attitude, but I got home, you weren't there, so I decided to go out for drinks with girlfriend and her friends. I don't know where we're going or when we'll be done. Was there something you wanted to do?
-Well, I thought that we'd take the kids out for dinner. - OK
-Well if you're not going to be home for dinner let me know so I can get a pizza. - OK
-Fine, have a good time.

So I didn't know what to do with this. I honestly think he's a lunatic. He's been with EA all week. Including New Years Day and seems like he's trying to put a guilt trip on me because I'm not home when he gets there. He doesn't share anything about what he's doing, or doing it with, with me, but then gets all passive aggressive because I'm not doing the same. I don't think I'm being rude or mean, I'm just not telling him my plans.

So at that point I'm left with a dilemma. Continue out with girlfriend or come back home and go out to dinner with family. I called girlfriend and compromised by making plans to go out with her tomorrow night and I turned the car around and came back home.

I'm so frustrated. I'm GAL, not sharing my plans with H, not chasing him. He's not sharing anything with me. We're both tense and frustrated.

And my poor sweet kids. On our drive home we were listening to one of those talk psychology show and a woman was on who was really in pain, her husband was cheating, they were getting a divorce... And my kid says, "Mom, I'm glad you picked the right guy."