Peace...I think this counselor gave my H permission to do whatever he wanted to also...destructive or otherwise...this counselor kept telling me how good looking my H was. She on the other hand was NOT...but, I thought that was out of place.

She was 'there' to help ME get through whatever H decided to do for or against me.

I felt trapped and still get upset with myself for not walking out immediately. Later, my H apologize for doing that to me. We never went back, H never went back and it still took him 5 months to move out. I've spent time with a great IC in the past...I have a masters in educational psychology...she was awful.

It is too expensive now....but, my MIL is so concerned about H's mind/health and she tells me H needs to see a counselor...but, she'll never tell him!!

Sophie

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Me-50
H-38
Married 15 years 8/7/08
D8
S10
S13
H affair 11/04-7/04 maybe longer
H moved out 4/06

7/30/08- present: Reconnecting w/kids,friendly
10/30/08 H signed D papers
11/10/08 D papers filed
11/13/08 D papers served at home