Living for you is not selfish.....it's mandatory!!! If you don't take care of you first, you will very soon have nothing to give those you love. That's the truth. I know you are not talking about taking care of yourself to the exclusion of those you love (having kept up with your sitch, I know you wouldn't begin to know how to do that). You just need to find your balance.
You are a very strong, special, woman, BobbiJo! Don't forget that!
And here's to finding the happy in 2009!
TJ
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