I wish I could take credit for that wonderful piece written on a standers' awakening, but I cannot.
My very best friend in the whole world sent it to me this morning. She found it on an infidelity website and could not believe how much it pertained to my situation.
I thought everyone would appreciate it.
It is something I am going to carry around all year.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
Trusting, people change. People change their likes, dislikes, especially when with a new partner. I disapproved of big houses with dining rooms...until me and my ex bought a big house and I changed my mind. I'm just saying, these things dont mean they are unhappy or will leave OW sadly. My ex is with a woman who downed a whole bottle of beer whilst driving! And he is (was) very anti drink driving and would only drink coke if the designated driver.
They could stay with these woman for years, despite us/friends thinking they are unsuitable. I dont think your ex did you a favor. You have been through a terribly difficult time, who needs that? Its sad that he looks tired and unkept, dont you think? He's probably pretty stressed/depressed, but then depressed people can still function and make choices (right or wrong) - at work, in R's (again, like my ex).
I'm struggling myself and I dont suppose my post helps much, but I see you repeatedly torture yourself. Maybe if you accept he is gone and with OW and its over, be his compassionate, happy, accepting friend...he might look at you as the greener grass and come home? Seems to work that way on these boards!
