Good afternoon, Mike.. and happy first late afternoon of the New Year!
I have a theory. Between the divorce, emotional chaos, finding unconventional but incredible positive support and caring on this board, learning new techniques for dealing with situations, learning that a whole passle of folks are incredible that each person positively changes in subtle ways without knowing it.
Expectations are higher, not because folks are picky, but because they know what is out there and what they've been through. Folks are less likely to 'settle', more likely to pay attention to their inner voice. If something seems great, folks go for it. If something turns out to be off.. it's "Nope, I'm not going there" and direct communication kicks in to deal with the issue.
I don't think it's that you attract batshitt crazy.. is that now you know the signs and deal with it directly. Who knows, maybe something within these women draw you, draw the fixer, the care giver in you.. and then reality hits when the neediness/drama emerges.
