I've had the same experiences too. My MIL came in town a week or 2 ago, came to the church when I joined, and then snuck out and ran off before I could say hi to her and wish her well. Didn't congratulate D9 on her singing in the kid's choir that day. I feel like they are losing out more than I am really.
Another thing that bugs me is that they act like I'm a thief. When MIL sent a Christmas check to the kids last year right after the bomb, and it never showed up she asked H if I had taken it. Luckily his brother's check didn't arrive either, so they realized it wasn't me. Plus it was never cashed. Even H told his mom there would be no way I would ever do that and he knows me that well at least. She actually is an alcoholic so my thought is she prob. never mailed them to us or my BIL. Then my FIL sent us a Christmas card this year but sent the kids' Christmas check to H. The ironic part about that is H never lets the kids have all the money for them. Last year I don't think he even gave them half of it because of the expense of OW or saving to move out or whatever. I would never take a penny of my kids' money but that's just me apparently. Ok, this is fun griping, huh? I just resolve to never be like this. I'm still trying to be friendly with the in-laws that are, and the ones that aren't I'm kind of being distant, but polite to them kind of reflecting back what I'm getting back from them, but I'm always polite of course. They are the ones losing out on our wonderful kids really.... Karen
