Partner left after 9 years - He's 'confused' now

[AliSuddenly]

Hey everyone! Happy New Year! I have so much to report, I dont know where to start! Sitch remains the same, but more in a mo. So at the end of the last thread now what? I said this...

my ex went to Tenerife with 5 other guys, old friends, 3 or so weeks ago, including her H and also her BFF H, and my ex apparently talked alot on holiday to that H.. about.. ME!!...

My ex had one long conversation with this guy and the gist was..

- He cant believe how much better I am (dont know if that meant in myself, or healthwise??)
- He cant believe how different I am (WOW! He has noticed!)
- He cant believe how well we get on still
- He doesnt know what to do about me and he is confused
- This guy said that he seemed "in a mess" about it all

So..WOW! Its official! He is confused !! I wasnt so much doing 180's, more that I have actually changed, I have returend to the girl he fell in love with (more open, more sociable, happier).. and I dont get ill anymore.

BUT.. he didnt contact me when he got back, until he phoned Friday, the day before his skiing holiday.

So..his skiing holiday..with Helen...he went on the Saturday before Christmas. He said he was going with his brother B, SIL and "someone else", so I assumed he meant Helen. When they got to B's flat in France, he'd forgotton to pay the bills so there was no electric!! They couldnt stay there, it was bitterly cold all week and snowing (dont know if you can ski when it snows??), so they had to find a hotel...SIL is pregnant and would have been livid with B (I bet the atomosphere was terrible). The electric didnt get turned on until WEDNESDAY, Christmas Eve at which point they went to the flat at last.. but before that, B and SIL got all their stuff robbed at the hotel !! Laptops, cameras, cards, passports.. at this point, apparently they were all going to cancel the holiday and fly home as it was a "disaster" and such a nightmare time my ex told BMF.

So I dont know what effect all this had on him and Helen, or how they all got on, but it sounds like the worst holiday he ever had. B and SIL would have been argueing anyway, then the burglary and things must be VERY bad to want to fly back a day before Christmas!!! So it was far from the romantic break I feared !! J who told me all this, didnt mention Helen and I couldnt work out if she knew about her (she will now though, after the holiday?)