I'm sorry it sounds like you're going through a rough time now. ((((wp)))) They say something like believe none of what they say, and I think that is true. Better to look at actions.
We have a 48-hour rule here that you should wait 48 hours before making any major decisions and see if you feel the same. That one has saved me a lot of trouble! I think you are having a lot of black-white thinking now too. I do think when your WAS is having an active A it doesn't do much good to expect anything from your WAS. You could also just give yourself a time limit like 3 months or 6 months or whatever. If nothing changes or gets better by then, if your W isn't willing to work on the marriage by then you can file for D. It's such an awful process I wouldn't do it unless you were 100% convinced. Karen
