Have you told your L you don't want the D? You can have your L take a defensive position, responding only as necessary. This puts the burden of pursuing the D and most of the cost on your H and his L.
Sleeper...this is exactly what my L and I did. I am prepared to counter on grounds H is guilty of...if H continues to ask for the moon.
I'm doing my best to keep the decision to D on my H's shoulders...right where they belong. H tried to blame me for his decision to cheat on me. H tried to blame me for his decision to walk out on us.
Filing for a D is HIS decision....he has yet to face/take responsiblity for any of the damaging decsions he has made. I'm not going to help him out with any of that.
Sophie
~~ Me-50 H-38 Married 15 years 8/7/08 D8 S10 S13 H affair 11/04-7/04 maybe longer H moved out 4/06
7/30/08- present: Reconnecting w/kids,friendly 10/30/08 H signed D papers 11/10/08 D papers filed 11/13/08 D papers served at home
