Vali you are sooo kind...so many here have it much worse than i, sometimes tho it just hurts, he talks the talk but can not walk the walk.
Me 53 H 51 OW 25 Bomb may 06 left june 8/ 06 ILYBNILWY (twice!) 7/6/07 H wants to come home 7/21/07 H comes home 7/07 -7/08 long haul letting go of OW now piecing in earnest
I know, sweets...it is hard to walk the walk...but I ask you to look into yourself and ask yourself what it is that you really want.
What type of marriage do YOU want? And start imagining that you HAVE it...and miraculous things will occur...I know it is hard...I am trying to apply this in my life and it is hard. Really hard.
But we are too wonderful to let experience make us bitter...I saw that in my exMIL...it is NOT pretty...the woman is still bitter and my my exFIL has been dead 3 years and they were divorced 16 years prior to that...sad, sad, sad.
Don't let that happen to you, sweets. Keep praying for God to help your marriage and to heal both you and your H so that you can move forward...keep praying that day after day and soon you will see a change.
Miracles CAN happen, sweets.
Love you and have a Merry Christmas! Valentine
Aug '06: H moved out July '08: H had a kid with the OW May 12 '09: emancipation day
"Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it." -Ferris Bueller
Me 53 H 51 OW 25 Bomb may 06 left june 8/ 06 ILYBNILWY (twice!) 7/6/07 H wants to come home 7/21/07 H comes home 7/07 -7/08 long haul letting go of OW now piecing in earnest
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Anew2 I hope your 2009 is better for you. Is it possible that you look into MC see how much it costs with insurance and then book and appt for you and your h.
I think it would help to talk about things.
Me 50 H 42 S 22 S 9 D 7 M 12 T 17 H moved out 8/2006 H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks H moved home 5/2011 for good
"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"
I am at a place where i want to know exactly what went on....just to ..well I dont know what went on...
H thinks Im jaded by all the "garbage" on the internet. Funny he said what really went on isnt what you imagined...like its been said many times here ...it isnt all we imagined sometimes far off from what we have conjured up
Me 53 H 51 OW 25 Bomb may 06 left june 8/ 06 ILYBNILWY (twice!) 7/6/07 H wants to come home 7/21/07 H comes home 7/07 -7/08 long haul letting go of OW now piecing in earnest
First of all a very happy and wonderful new year to you !!! I'm sending you kisses and hugs from across the pong !
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Funny he said what really went on isnt what you imagined...like its been said many times here ...it isnt all we imagined sometimes far off from what we have conjured up
yes, ....BUT...for some it is all what they hoped it would be. I know this because I SEE my H and I know that he is truly happy now, and that until the day were to come that he tells me otherwise, it is what I believe to be so.
I'm sorry, I know it's not what some newbies may want to hear, but my H is happy. He may hurt still and or feel some guilt, but he's happy. It's ok, I'm happy too, and I know that the type of happiness he now longs for is something I could not have provided him with anyway. It's not what I would call happiness. But we must all go in search of our own happiness and I hope that all of us here will one day succeed ! xxxx
Love Cinders xxx
"In the depths of my winter, I realized there is within me an invincible summer" Albert Camus
