I agree my H does have a lot of issues to work out. He never felt like he was loved by his parents, he was 12 years younger than his brother so he knew he was a mistake & I believe his mother always made him feel that way.
I'm working on forgiveness & I know he will have to forgive himself, problem is this family thinks they are always right & everyone else is wrong. I do have a feeling things will change after a while, I hope so anyway.