Detach>Worse>Weird>Better ???

[Sophie]

I keep thinking of things from your response, Snodderly.

It's okay for him to play family sometimes....then, at his whim...he doesn't want to play family.

Does my detachment include ignoring this insane, selfish behavior???

Which desire to I 'go with'...he hangs out with us like 'family'...or he doesn't want to hang out with us like 'family'??

He rides the coattails of my work. I haven't really minded because I would do what I do with or without him. He never creates any event on his own for anyone.

Should I completely stop him from hanging out in my house? Or do I continue to just go with the flow...when he is here, I do what I want and I don't cater to him. I am friendly...but not so much a friend. I listen, but rarely say much about myself. I don't offer any assistance or help...I just listen.

H is 'tanking' financially and only sees selling things, cutting insurance back etc...and the solution.

H is stupid.

In a way, I am embarassed, more often now, to have ever hooked up with him.