military marriage... separated

[FitChik]

Hey everyone! My husband and I are separated and I am hoping for reconcillation.

My husband and I are both active duty military. We have been married only 5 months. He lived in Texas and I am in Washington state. He just deployed to Iraq for 12 months and filed for divorce before leaving. This was a complete surprise to me.

We worked for months to allow myself to move to Texas and deploy with him now. We found out in October that I could not deploy now (December) but would be allowed to deploy in April 2009 and most likely link up with him. The night we learned I could not deploy in December, he told me he wanted a divorce.

I told him I will not agree to divorce right now. We have had limited contact but most of it has been arguing about the divorce.

I am currently reading Michele's books along with other resources. I am determined to try and make our marriage work, even though the divorce may be inevitable since it's already filed. I will give our marriage everything I have for my own peace of mind. I am hoping for a miracle.

Any advice or suggestions on how to proceed?