* W says "see k's, on dad's schedule. Making you suffer more. If you were his prime concern this would be over by now. Lost, kids have made it quite clear they do not want to live like this anymore. Why do you want to be married?".....
* W blamed me for all of this.....She asks k's if that is what they want. PUT THEM RiGHT IN THE FRICKIN MIDDLE AGAIN. I did ask her to stop saying it was abusive to k's. More of the same continued. W said there is no way I could have k's best interests at heart.
I think you did well by what you were saying, but I think your W is being abusive to both you and your kids by having them participate in this kind of horrorfest. I don't believe any C would recommend a child to hear those kind of abusive comments about a parent by another parent. No decent therapist would condone that. If she or the kids are seeing a therapist it sounds like you should be involved with that process to let the therapist know what kind of discussions are going on in front of the kids. I am very skeptical that a therapist would agree to that kind of verbal abuse in front of the children.
You made your boundaries clear that you did not feel it was appropriate to discuss in front of the children. I think when she pushed your boundaries, basically steamrollered over your boundaries I think & was verbally abusive also either would have been enough for you to say this needs to be a private conversation. I will not hold this in front of the kids. or I will not listen to this kind of verbal abuse in front of the kids. If she continues, which I'm sure she would, then I think you should leave the situation. Not allowing her to act like this and say stuff like that in front of the kids. She is hurting the kids and you shouldn't let her do that I don't think. Karen
