I would not equate dating with adultery.... dating is going out, not having sex. I am not prepared to have sex with another man while I am married. But if I met someone whom I fell in love with and want to progress the physical relationship, that would mean that I would be the one to file for divorce. This is what I mean by not waiting. I have a life ahead of me; why should I wait for a man who says that he won't file for divorce until he needs to (that is, wants to marry someone else)?