Well, as you already noted, your situation mirrors so many others on this site, including my own. I think what I'm learning is that confusion on the WAS's part is a good thing. It means you may still have a chance to revive the relationship. My W and I are in that odd hanging out as a family stage, and while I am glad that we're no longer in the fighting like crazy stage, it is very difficult to see my W and have to think of her as just a friend. Particularly when she is continuing to talk to the OM that I believe she has had an EA with. My W lived out of the house for 2 months, but has just moved back in out of financial necessity. At first I thought this would hurt our chances of coming back together, but now I am beginning to think it may help us.
I definitely understand how you feel about the fact that your feelings may be dying, but just try to look at the big picture and don't let your H drag down into the darkness w/him. I don't know if that's the best advice, but that's what I try to do. I still love my W very much, even though she is not currently reciprocating that love. I am trying not to cast stones of judgment on her anymore, because I realize that we have all fallen short in some way or another. For me it was allowing my spells of depression to come between us and hurt our physical and emotional connection. Anyhow, none of us are perfect. If you still love your H and want to save your M then just don't let him see your pain; only show him a happy self confident woman that he will find attractive. I too was clingy and lacked self-confidence, so I think I understand where you are coming from. Good luck to you and keep posting. I have found this site to be so valuable to just vent and gain perspective. I hope you have a nice new year.
