W came to pick up S6 today - one big stupid thing I did, and I've learned my lesson. S6 said that OM was coming over, and I knew OM and W were going to some music thing, but I was thinking OM was coming to the party tomorrow (that W left out of Anyway, I told S6, "No, he's coming tomorrow" So the first thing S6 says to W is "Daddy says OM isn't coming over" W's face went through about 15 contortions - ending very quickly on pressed together lips. I can't tell if she was mad I was talking about him, or felt odd because she has never mentioned him to my face, maybe guilty. She just told S6, "Well, he's coming over a little later." All I could do was mumble, "I thought it was tomorrow."
Ugh - note to self, COMPLETELY ignore anything kids say about OM. Just say Oh, or change the subject. D8 wanted to text W and ask what OM's last name was, and I said, "Just talk to Mommy tomorrow." Boom, done.
So, after that horrible exchange - W was acting extremely uncomfortable - I've never seen her so uncomfortable.
I had taken the opportunity, of course, to put on snappy jeans, a fitted shirt that shows off my 22 pounds lost, combed hair, shaved, trimmed goatee, good cologne on. I just went up and stood about a foot away and leaned against the wall, (wanted to make sure she caught a whiff of the cologne) and she didn't do anything.
I just started telling funny stuff, showed her kids new gummy vitamins, asked her how work was (She said, "You know, pretty boring.") Joked about New Year's, etc.
S6 got his shoes on, and was standing there, and I wrapped up, got him his coat, gave him a hug, and shooed them out the door. I said bye to both of them, and W didn't respond.
I'm glad I sort of pushed them out the door very gently - instead of W ending the conversation, and leaving.
My goal is small with these times: just put a little tiny twist of myself somewhere in the back of W's head. I know OM has 99.9999%, but I'll start with .0001%.
Anyway, I told S6, "No, he's coming tomorrow" So the first thing S6 says to W is "Daddy says OM isn't coming over" W's face went through about 15 contortions - ending very quickly on pressed together lips. I can't tell if she was mad I was talking about him, or felt odd because she has never mentioned him to my face, maybe guilty. She just told S6, "Well, he's coming over a little later." All I could do was mumble, "I thought it was tomorrow."
