I've Come Full Circle 23

[kat727]

I thought it strange that Meg Ryan's character was just going to throw him out, no questions asked. Maybe that was just to move it along. I don't know. I just don't think anyone that had been married for quite a while could throw it all away without question. Maybe that is why she did better than me!

kat

[karen43]

She kind of did DB I guess naturally except for the kicking him out, that was more of a Puppy move. But I think she did everything perfectly. No matter what she was going to be good don't you think? She GAL'd and got a great life, looked good, etc. Started living for herself instead of others. Lots to learn from that. I think I might watch it again too! BTW, I thought it was so funny when she saw the OW and said something like "You've got to be kidding", I mean that was funny! Karen

[kat727]

Well maybe she saw the original so she knew it was all going to work out fine!!lol

kat

[hopeful4her]

I remember working at the theater years ago and one night, a group sponsored a special showing of that movie "Women".

Everyone that attended was....lets just say ladies that played for the other team.

Not that there's anything wrong with that.

Just popping in to say hello to ya'.

[kat727]

Nope nothing wrong with that and I am not up for changing teams mid-stream!!
Ex brought back a replacement for Rock Band 2. The disc on the first one kept messing up in the xbox360. He was telling the kids he was surprised that he could go to any Walmart to exchange it and was happy to be able to get them one in Lawrence. Ummm, that is where skank is. Honestly he could have left that part out. Just say you were able to replace it and would bring it by later. Don't need to pour salt on my not quite healed wound.

It saddened me to find that his actions still hurt. No I don't want him back. I just want the pain to stop. Perhaps I am more sensitive in this last month of torture that I have in front of me.

My C called to thank me for the payment and to see how I was. I let her in on it and she thinks the B will be very good for me and really get me over the past. I hope so. She does think I am handling the D fine, so that was good to hear.

Just the start of my day.

kat

[JeffSTL]

Hey Kat, checking post and lurking in the shadows

Kat: It saddened me to find that his actions still hurt. No I don't want him back. I just want the pain to stop. Perhaps I am more sensitive in this last month of torture that I have in front of me.

I don't know if it ever stops, deep down inside there will always be that hurt, we bury it, cover it up, try to ignor it, but how can anyone ever get over this crap.

People say on other post, that they are moving on; wish their WAS well and hope they are happy and find what they are looking for, but I believe that if they would pull out some old family photos of thelselves with their ex, the pain or sadness of what happened would still be there. I think its like death, when I remember my father, who passed away 21 years ago, I still get sad/melancholy/blue and think of how things may have been if he was still with us.

Hope 2009 is a better year for all of us, it can't be as bad as my 2008


M45
W41
M10.75 years
D9, D7, D7, S6
OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me
New Abbreviation = WAM (Walk Away Mom) 05/31/08
W files for D 07/18/08

[kat727]

Last night was another crazy one. Ex called and wanted to know if the kids could spend the night. He wasn't off today so he would have to get them early and bring them to my house. His "reason" was that s13 had fallen asleep.

I said I would really prefer to have them home. This is the schedule you wanted. I didn't say this but I am thinking they don't like being there more than they have to be, so why make them now??

I spoke with the girls, ended up that they wanted to come home. When they get there I find out skank had been there too. They were talking about going skating Sunday and she was saying wouldn't it be nice if I brought my girls and came too? My d10 just looked at her and didn't say anything.

I know I can't stop this type of stuff. Just makes me sick that he won't leave the kids out of his mess. I suppose he will marry skank but he will be losing his kids in the process. Not physically but emotionally I mean.

how do you guys deal with this??

kat

[hopeful4her]

All I can say, kat, is that he is no longer your H and you are no longer his W.

I suppose all you CAN do is deal with it. Nothing more.

I've told myself and the wife that if he is what she wants, then D me and get it over.

We're still married and the scary thought is, if YOU'RE still having those same feelings and actually divorced, then I can see myself having those same feelings, even though WE may be divorced some day.

I reckon, just take his latest niceness for what it is. Him being nice, but he is still in his own world.

I'm sorry it still hurts.

And Jeff, that's exactly how I'm looking at things. I mourn the death of my 'wife'. I will always miss her. We had a beautiful thing.

I watched a bit of 'Hope Floats' last night. Paraphrasing what she told her H, I got the best part of my wife. I got two beautiful girls. And I have my stepson.

[kat727]

I wish I didn't care but mostly I wish he would stop hurting our kids. If we didn't have kids I wouldn't be hearing all of his stuff and her being forced upon them.

I love them dearly and just like a mother lion, protects her cubs! He is not worth my time, I know that. My kids are. I have been ready Cato3's thread and I know it is something I have to get used to. It would be so much easier if this wasn't the person that actively broke up my marriage, maybe I would be feeling differently.

Looking forward to saying good bye to 2008, wish I could say I was going to miss you! Here's looking at 2009 everyone!!

kat

[karen43]

I'm sorry it still hurts.

Me too! D9 told me today that Dad had 2 cakes, OW gave him one also and a big balloon. I said snarkily, Isn't she nice?" and D9 said yeah, but not as nice as you. I kind of feel detached and then little stuff or comments make it tough. Although don't you think it has gotten a little easier? If I had heard that a year ago or even 6 months ago, I think I would have cried and eaten everything chocolate in the house (not that there is much anymore) but no I didn't. So baby steps right?

I watched a bit of 'Hope Floats' last night. Paraphrasing what she told her H, I got the best part of my wife. I got two beautiful girls. And I have my stepson.

I watched part of it too! And then they had it on twice and I missed the first part the 2nd time too! I was thinking about netflixing it so I can see the whole thing. I was thinking that too. I mean I got the better part of the deal, really b/c I have my two kiddos and H has an R with a skanky ho. Who lost out on that one???

And that's the thing even though our WAS may marry the OW that broke up our marriage ( well the two of them did I guess), how likely is it that marriage will be happy long-term or last? I mean we had good starts to our marriages, and you know how that worked out! And they started with cheating, lying, breaking up families, etc. The OW in my case has already been married 3 times, do you think that all of a sudden my H will become the perfect H for her? And if these guys want skanky hos then obviously we are not the right women for them!