Ignore the affair or throw him out?

[pearlharbr]

Actually, thinking more about what attracted him to me in the first place puts me in an awkward position. I guess a lot of it was physical attraction. That's one of the main problems we have now, basically being in a SSR. I am a LD person and didn't want to deal with it. After the first bomb I got the SSM book and immediately started improving things in the bedroom. But all that stopped a few weeks later when I learned about BF's A. So now I can't improve that aspect of our R. Not sure how I can show that I'm open and willing to improve our sex life when I don't want to appear to approve of his cheating by ML. I feel stuck in that area so I'm just focusing on GAL.