I'm 37 and I can tell you that in my case I was pretty distant with my XH prior to the bomb because I could feel the emotional distance. However, there is nothing that made me any randier than knowing that he didn't want me, was having an A, and that I no longer had the option of "getting any" again. Good grief! It was like a hormone overload for months that couldn't be satisfied. Now, don't get me wrong, I didn't run out and try to find someone to satisfy my cravings because that is not the kind of woman I am. I must have an emotional connection but losing that connection to the most important person in my life made me crave it so much more.
I don't know if that makes sense. Now that it has been over a year and the D is final my hormones have calmed down to next to nothing because there is no possibility of an emotional attachment. Again, no idea if that is making sense or helping you at all.
In short, women do need an emotional attachment in order to have smoldering hot sex in general. Now a quickie with little fullfilment can be done without any emotional attachment. Again, I'm not going there but I know plenty of women who have just for the momentary high.
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
