Here's my take on these things, texting, emailing, occasional chats. I think it's the significant other probing to see who we now are, how they feel about us, how they feel about the relationship, how we may feel in return, etc. In other words, testing the waters, and I think Michele even mentions this in her books.
Now for me what did I mean when I said getting back to DBing. Really getting back to the core principles of DBing with the biggest one being don't pressure in any way, no R talk, don't initiate, let her lead. I'll let it be known she's welcome to join the girls and I out and such but I won't pursue either. The other thing is to maintain that positive mental attitude all around. I generally am a pretty positive person but do find myself, at times, thinking negatively about the whole situation.
I really learned patience in the last two years and it's been liberating to say the least. Now what's great is I feel I have the strength to practice a great deal of patience and now can DB properly.
Lastly, I am going to re-read DR and listen to the KLA CDs completely through. Then start applying the core principles like goal setting etc.
If we really want to love, we must learn how to forgive. - Mother Theresa
