Episode IV: A New Hope (?)

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Okay,

So the plan with the boys for the week was she'd have them Tues & Weds night. I said at the time I would like to take them out for dinner Weds as I normally do.

Yesterday afternoon, I get a text from W saying I can have them Weds night. After balancing my finances I come to realize dinner is not in the budget and text back to this extent and if she'd like, she can keep them for the night. W texts back, "no, they are with you now Weds & Thurs, then I have them for the weekend.

Last night, the moment I get home, my cell phone rings, it's W.

Seeing our communication has not been the greatest, I ignore the call and see if she leaves a message, but she doesn't.

Out of curiosity, I call W back, thinking somethings up with the kids.

I get a sobbing voice from W. I figure she got fired from work since she took the day off and is probation for doing so in the past and this is their busy season, I say nothing to this effect.

W - "what are you doing?"

I replied nothing, just got home, what's wrong?

W - 'why don't you answer my calls anymore, or just hang up on me and not say goodbye or anything?

I reply, well things arent' the greatest between us, you say you're engaged, taking the kids from me and getting support as of next month and my life is complete turmoil.

After some of the usual going around in circles I tell W it is not my intent to be mean to her, I do not want to be, but you are with another man, so you have to give some leeway when you belame for that and tell your entire family and village these lies about me and threaten to take my kids away.

W apologizes and then: "what are you doing tomorrow for New Year?"

I reply nothing, I don't have the money to take the kids to dinner so you may have them for dinner and drop them off if you want afterward. Your brother is in charge of new years so I'm just supervising and making sure it stays under control.

W- "so, if you're not doing anything, can I spend it with you?"

In complete shock I calmly reply, why me?

Never got an answer, and more M talk ensued (all beit calmly)and she backs out of her question to spend time.

At the end of the conversation I tell her I'm flattered she asked to spend new years with me and would be glad to and to think about it.

After making dinner and cleaning, kindness gets the better of me and I text her "Would you like to go 'dutch' on dinner with the boys and go from there?" No reply. So, later on I text "Ok, I'll buy and deal with the money issue later". No reply.

Well, dummy me finds out later on that OM finally showed up late (they aren't getting along very well from what I hear) and sent a dummy text to never mind, your with your fiance so you can't answer me. No reply.

This morning, I get a text saying the boys will be dropped off by her uncle after they wake up. I go into damaage control mode and reply "ok, sorry about the last text, I was frutrated and confused" Shortly thereafter of no reply I text "my offer still stands. It's a simple yes or no answer, I'm trying to work with you on what you asked (about tonight).

Still no reply yet.

So, is/was she really trying to reach out? Or is it all a combination of her father being all over after what she's did to me on Christmas and being fed up with her all together, her relationship to OM not being so hot and probably being fired so now she's scared?

I am just so blown away that she asked me that. And, our conversation over all did show signs of improvement and came up short of couseling being agreed upon. But yet, OM still lingers in the picture. I am prepared now to deal with that, I wasn't before, if it gives me a chance to spend time with her, fine, whatever, I know family will prevail, and I am the better man she misses. Jsut got to learn to keep my emotions in check about OM.