Episode IV: A New Hope (?)

[dday101798]

Well, since my other thread is getting close to the 100 post mark, I thought I'd start over, especially after a new potential sign of hope.

So the brief history:

8/04-My W, self & 2 boys move from our tiny 2 bedroom townhouse to a 5 bed home of our dreams with the hopes for having a daughter at some point. We were the 'role model' couple/family.

8/04 to 7/08- house is nothing more than a financial nightmare and constant 'party pad' for W & "friends"

9/06-MIL dies of cancer and sends W into undetectable tailspin and 'parties' excessively drinking and doing drugs.

3/07-Shortly after we find out we are finally having our third child and believed to be our daughter, W miscarries, furhter escalating the party mode to the finish.

3/08-After enduring as much as I could of being ignored and left out for W's friends, I try to get w's attention that if she doesn't grow up she'll find herself alone some day (scare tatic).

3/08- scare tactic backfires and I find myself living in our basement as W' begins to go out and 'party' and not come home.

4/08- We talk things out, family becomes more important than partying and we have the greatest 4 weeks of our marriage of closeness, spontinaty, and we were each other's focus once again.

5/08- W doesn't stick to plan and slowly drifts away and starts to not come home again, sneaks out in the middle of the night, gets fired from part time job as a result, I return to life in basement.

7/2/08- After W doesnt come home yet again I catch her in her lies, but can't prove where she's been.

7/11/08- W says she's leaving to stay at FIL's house for the weekend to clear her head and get grip.

7/11/08- I catch W with OM at FIL's house.

7/12/08- W moves out, loves OM and let the games begin.