regardless of the generalizations I myself am a big time thinker
I believe they made a DaVinci stautue in my likeness or one of those esteemed sculptor's made the "Thinker"
This drives my darling crazy on one hand because she is very rash and semi-compulsive(at least in her thought ..fortunately for that)
Anyway back to the point.
I wanted to be able to meet her needs by showing compassion and understanding of how down she has always felt about her body image ever since having her daughter 20 years ago and then going through the dissolvement of brief M with my stepD's dad. She entirely did the eating to attempt to relieve stress and comfort herself. I wanted to be as supportive as i could be to help her feel comforted by me but I wanted to have the time and space to mull over what she was propsing to me and what my opinion of it was. Once again I know my opinion is only being sought as a supplemental thing . She can and will do as she chooses.
Just wished I could have kept more quiet. After attempts at that. and she can't stand quiet either (really can't stand ..as in drives her nuts ..cuz she wants to know what somebody thinks about her) so that only lasted for a short bit before I started chiming in and then when I had given her the "floor" for a little bit I am rather certain that I started my ritual of talking over her here and there and the rest is history
Trenches get dug and grenades get lobbed
But are argument while they are still happening are occuring differently and are not as severe. The go for the jugular, which is her specialty, seems to have subsided. And as I said I tried with very limited success to not talk over her.
