Had IC yesterday... She reinforce that if I didn't 'cause' H's emotions of despair, hurt sadness by calling names, being mean, disresptful etc...
I'm not responsible for them. He is causing them. I can listen I can validate.. I can offer comfort doing things I can do (that are good, not detrimental for me).
When he stomps his feet & goes off to have his temper tantrum because he didn't get comfort in his way (ie: physical touch or sex)... he needs to take care of his disappointment in a more mature way. He needs to learn how to take 'no' for an answer (this sounds a lot like our D14). I have taught him that he doesn't have to take no for an answer or 'deal' with his disappointment much in the past as I have done that for him.
It is really hard to see him hurting & not jump into 'make him feel better'. He needs to learn, I need to learn... this dance is hard.
Happy new year everyone. Bridge
Divorced 03/2010 Mom to two amazing kids
Taking the road less traveled because those encountered on the way may be just as unique.
