How long does it take to sort this chitt out is the problem.
how long does it take to sort this chitt out?? Marriage chitt???
forever Tim...it takes forever..I've always said you can't put a time limit on this and lots of people disagree with me on that..I think the best you can hope for through all this is getting though the tough spots where only one person works..in hopes that that non working person will have some type epithany and snap out of whatever ails them..be it OM/OP/MLC/ABCD or what ever initial they want to hang on their craziness..
so if she decided to commit tomorrow..your asss would still have to work as hard as you are working now...if not harder..
so to me there is no time limit and as I've said over and over..you will know when you are done..your little voice will let you know
Your right Mike,
I know that I can never stop working but if she would commit then I would atleast feel that all the work I have done and all the work that I need to do is worth it. Its about sharing the work and the pleasure together, not equally because someone always has to be doing more but it is working together. I love my W and want to share the rest of my life with her but I need a little encouragement from her that we are moving in the right direction and that I am the only one in her life and that somewhere in the near future I can expect to not have to continue to control myself around her.
I want to be me without fear or hesitation. If I want to hug her or kiss her or ML to her I can and know that she wants me to do it and maybe even desires me to do it. I want to know that if I have a bad day of if I am feeling down and lonely that she will be there to pick me up or just give me a hug to let me know I'm not alone. Is that really too much to ask of the person I married? I think not.
I know that was not how we were in the past and I know it will be akward at first but its how I envision it to be.
and it's also about one carrying the other when one can;t walk on their own..
maybe this is your time to carry Tim..maybe this is the only time you'll ever have to do it..maybe this is what true love is all about..
