Oh my! Cat, when you wrote "rewrite history", those were the exact words I said to him. He had said something about even though we'd had good times, most of them were bad, and I told him I wasn't going to allow him to rewrite history. We had wonderful great times. And yes, I think those reasons are not only flimsy, but they're a moving target. One time it's religion, the next time it' I won't let him have his addition, and so on. And earlier this year, he did lose his only friend so that was a big loss. Thank you for putting the time into perspective. I guess a little over a month is really not a long time.

You know, in my head I know it'll be ok eventually, I just wish my heart would catch up...

I've heard the term 'going dark' and I think that means no contact at all. I would like to try to do that, but how can I get around things that I absolutely have to contact him about?


~Trying to keep hope alive~
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together: Married 24 yrs; together 31
Kids-5 grown (1 D; 4 S)
Bomb: 11/08 (separated ever since)