<<<fights me every step of the way when I try to challenge her to make her grow and develope as a person with the intention of trying to make her the best she can be. She is doomed to unhappiness.
You're trying to make a flower grow by yanking it up & looking at it's roots every few days.
You can't challenge her to grow. You need to love her exactly where she's at, or vote with your feet & walk away.
You can't make her develop as a person. She needs to want that for herself.
You can't choose happiness for her. You can't give her the greatest gift ever, she has to knock on the door herself.
My night totally sucked too. Happy Fricking New Year (sarcasm noted).
Hugs
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
