Ok Folks I need advice fast my sitch has just changed!!!!
My w texted her mother from the resort earlier today and said that she was breaking off the "friendship" for good. My MIL called me to let me know. She has now canceled plans to have her friends stay there and is staying at our house.
On my way to see my brother in another city my W called from the resort to tell me that she was changing the plans and would be at our house instead. After I hung up I felt a little frisky and took a page from trapt's play book. I texted her saying "do you look hot on the ski hill in your new ski suit?" Shortly after I received a text from her saying "I miss you" I texted back "I miss you too".
It gets better.
I got to my brothers house and she called, she made small talk then told me that she wanted to try and do a couple of fun things together, then maybe try a date. She started talking about how skiing could be our thing for the winter. She talked about going to counseling by herself, then the two of us going together. She asked me if I would like to go on a date with her , of course I said yes not trying to sound too excited. I suggested that we each plan one fun event for us to do. She agreed.
I didn't want to rush things and scare her off so I made sure that I told her that our fun events would have no pressure.
Now, I need some input as how to proceed. From talking to her mother it sounds like my W was out searching for something and now realizes she has it at home. I still don't want to get my hopes up too much just yet, but WOW this is crazy. I guess sitting back and letting her figure it out may be working.
The original plan was that she was going to spend New Years Eve with her friends from England and I was spending it here at my brothers. She threw out that perhaps they drive here and get a hotel room, but it's a 5 hour drive and then we would be heading back the next day. I feel like I want to drive back and see her now so that we can talk face to face, but again I don't want to look to anxious. Over the phone I told her that we have to sit down and talk she said I guess because I am throwing all of this at you.
She told her mother earlier "how can I go back after all of this" and my MIL told her that people can recover from EA and PA, she called me after that. So I want to create and encouraging environment but not apply much pressure. I am trying not to over think this AGAIN and I need to go with the flow. But this is making my mind spin. All of these months of being alone and I am now seeing signs of hope. I don't want to blow it!!!!
She wanted to do more skiing so I called back and suggested that I could take sunday off (I am working), and we could go. She told me that she had just made plans to go with another couple (because I was working) but that she would talk to them to see if if was ok that I tag along. She is getting back to me.
Anyway that's alot of stuff but WOW and Holy Crap! Quick question is it rushing things if I suggest that I go home and spend New Years Eve with them? or just stick with the plan and visit with my brother.
Jeff
ME 44 W 32 M 5 T 6
no kids
June 08 I don't want to be married it's not you it's me
