Thanks Tom. Today I called my XH to ask about my sons truck, (he is trading it), he said he was taking a nap, (I think), anyway it was a short friendly conversation, ended nicely. Then my son called to tell me later that I would have to find a way to pick up my vehicle, so I could get home after work. He called and asked his Dad if he would come and get me. I called my X to confirm that he was coming to pick me up and he was hateful and said he didnt know at the moment, he was still sleeping. I told him I would call back. I called back and he said Yes (which surprised me) that he was on his way. He called me to tell me he was outside waiting and told me to hurry...HATEFULLY. I got in the truck and told him nicely Thank You and he said your welcome. We had small talk. He pulled up at my vehicle and said ok cya. Did not want to talk at all. I went, got gas, and called him to see if I could come by. (I am so desperate to just be his friend). He said no, but I showed up at his door anyway. He didnt let me in at first but then changed his mind and told me I was hard headed. YEP thats me. Anyway we talked a bit and things happened. (and you know what I mean). All I want to do is take care of him, thats what I have done for 20 years, and I cant make myself stop. Afterwards I was leaving and he told me that this would happen no more that it had to end because it was making me hang on. I agreed with him nicely. He said please leave before he fight, I told him I wasnt fighting with him no matter what and he didnt have to get upset. I asked him why it bothered him so much when I called him. First he said I couldnt just call once, that I called too many times. Then he said, the less I called the faster I would get on with my life. He said he wanted me out of his life completely! Of all the things he has said to me, or done, this hurt me the worst. I didnt let it show, but it did. I asked how can that be when we have a son together. He said our son was 18 and had his own life. I then left. I called him again after I left and said some things to him. He was pretty nice and I said jokingly "Say Bye" and he said something funny back. Also are conversations sometimes are crazy. One minute he tells me to stop calling and move on...then...I will ask him something like do you want to fix the faucet at home or do you want me to get someone else. He replys it dont matter, whatever. To me, this is a mixed signal, or is it? What do you think? And, what do you think about this conversation in general? I know I messed up, but I want to tell you everything, so you will know exactly what to tell me.
