*Should I fight custody?*already signed sep.agr

[cat03]

lissie baby)))))))))))))))) been looking for ya girl!!! where you been? sounds like you've had a heck of a time, my prayers your way hon, you and your babies are always in my mind too, I too had all this horror stories in my head about future step mom, to the point of making myself sick! it was/is so hard to push the bad thoughts away. s10's helped me with that, when I mentioned my fears she simply asked "are you a woman of faith?"... that gave me a LOT to think of, and when she reminded me there are angels watching after our little ones.
I too squirmed when kids told me how d5 cried so much because she didn't want to finish gf's food (which, 99% of the time consists of mac&cheese with mash potatoes), I tried to be objective, there are time when they also give me a hard time about eating.
My point is, that it just seems much much worse when kids go through certain sitches whereas it wouldn't have been a big deal had the very same things happend to us. We just have to lift both hands to the sky and hand the Lord our fears, that's pretty much the only and best way to handle those thoughts which torment us.

kat, I agree with you, I was fine as pie when stbx was alone and he had 1 to 1 time with kids, once gf appear my peace was shattered in a million pieces, which I guess means I have more to learn (in my defense, he was a jerk about it, he knew her 6wks before he moved her in and accepted her kids to move in with mine, BIG shock to my kids and me, he never even bothered to tell me about her, nor about their upcoming M)

I want to believe that it WILL stop hurting, I want to be healed without scars, I want to move on and view this wretch of a man as a husk of my once loved H, the jerk who's with that new woman is not the man I married.