I went over and checked out your post on Newcomers. Wow to lose a child at the age of 10 would shatter anyone's world. I have a daughter that is 10 and I can't even begin to think what I would do without her. So yes, your H needs to work through the grief. It is hard. I lost my kindred spirit, my grandmother, 9 years ago and I am still not over it. Part of that for me anyway was that everyone kept asking me "Aren't you over that yet??" I felt like I couldn't really talk about it. Maybe your husband could journal his thoughts and feelings. I definitely think counseling would help.

Don't be scared of your last ditch effort on your marriage. If you think like that enough it could become a self fulfilling prophesy. Instead keep working on yourself, be supportive of your H and to continue to not pressure him.

I agree with Single Dad, the more you post to others, the more they come to you. You may think, well my life is a mess, how can I help. You can help by giving support and advice. When you aren't in a situation, sometimes you can see things so much clearer.

Continue to post and vent here. There are wonderful people here that will come to help. I promise.

kat

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S24, S21, D18, D17
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