Hey MC, just checking post, I'm glad the kids are with you, your and my situation parallel each other in so many ways.
The kids have been a big help in all of this for me. Not that they even know it or did anything, but because I know they need me, they rely on me, I know I need to move on and keep going for them, They keep me busy and I get to enjoy the little things that W misses because she is gone. How they play or run or the pictures they color. My refrigerator is covered with drawings they made for me. When they're in bed sleeping and I'm in their rooms putting clothes away, just looking at them fills my heart with joy.
D7 just walked into my office to show me a picture she drew, had God at the top, a Christmas tree, 2 angels flying around the tree and her and myself standing next to the tree (little stuff like that)
They are such a blessing, you sound like you are doing good, dealing with everything, I know its hard, hope you have a great new year
M45 W41 M10.75 years D9, D7, D7, S6 OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me New Abbreviation = WAM (Walk Away Mom) 05/31/08 W files for D 07/18/08
Thanks Jeff....we do have such parallel lives, unfortunately.
I also get the joy of having the kids make projects and drawings in school and they always make them for me. It just warms my heart and makes me kinda sad that my W is missing out. But that's her choice; I'm not missing out.
You have a great new year as well Jeff..let's pray we keep getting stronger and that our kidsd thrive given the circumstances they've been dealt.
I also get the joy of having the kids make projects and drawings in school and they always make them for me. It just warms my heart and makes me kinda sad that my W is missing out. But that's her choice; I'm not missing out.
Drink in every moment. Thanks for the posts. Feeling it again today.
M42 S12/D9 T17/M12 Bomb 1 3/22/06 Bomb 2 7/11/08 Bomb 3 7/31/08 W Filed 8/1/08 D granted 12/17/08 D Finalized 1/29/09
A man who compromises his principles never had them in the first place.
The kids took an inventory the night I brought them home after packing up the W. They were noting what was missing and what was left. Don't know if it makes any difference to shield them from the packing or not since they notice obvious differences around the house.
New Years' Eve spent at home with my kids, though my D was asleep long before midnight. She missed the "party" that we were so excited about. My S and I had chips and dip and we watched Rock 'n' Eve. My boy thought Dick Clark was freaky; I hate seeing them prop him up there these past few years. Though I'm sure Dick wants it.
the W told me that she had no plans on NYE. I highly doubt it. She was supposed to come Sat night and pack more stuff; but called on Sat. morning to describe how tired and exhausted she was so she wouldn't be out after work. She was supposed to come out last night and pack/take more of her stuff. didn't happen!! Too exhausted.
I went to her new apartment to look it over. I verified that she and dysfunctional BFF are on the lease together. No OM on the lease (whew!!). So I'm not TOO worried about the OM being there. Kids were excited about the place. I left them there for the first time last night. They stayed for about 2.5 hours and she brought them home.
Went by and saw her F and StpMom before going to the apartment. I guess the W has been telling them that she's been coming over to help with the kids in the mornings. I told them "No she hasn't." They didn't think so; what a bunch of hogwash.
She also wanted me to check her e-mail and look for a financial aid award from her school.
My S took the phone when he was talking with her and went into his room while conversing. I thought that was interesting. At first, I was worried that his mother asked him not to talk around me; mainly because of the secret he was keeping earlier. But as I was passing by his room on the way to his sister's room; I could overhear him talking about Star Wars. So, I'll just observe and watch to see how he reacts to all of this.
