welcome to the land of misfit toys #11

[kelaaron]

ok hon, i'm gonna say the same thing here that I said on the phone. Maybe someone else will have some input.

First, you know I completly understand all of it. More than anyone else. So I will say this with as much strength as I can cuz I know where you are.

Let him go. Let him have his time to make his choice. I know you know where he will go initially, but he already is going there and you and the kids are suffering for it. Honey, he has/is costing you sooooo much.

He needs to see that you won't keep playing this with him and he needs to see what his REAL other option is. He loves you. I know that. But until he gets to see her for what she is, he will keep doing this to you.

I know you say if he goes, you won't take him back. So many of us have said that. You don't have to date him, that will just keep him in the same place he is now. But if he really thinks he will lose you, it may change his mind. I really think that is the only way he is going to open his eyes. And then maybe if he wants to work on it, you can open your heart enough to give him and you that chance.

He is not able to stand up to her right now. He is not able to see her for what she is. He just isn't there. But if you keep going this way, you are not gonna have anything left of yourself. Your selfesteem, your health, your family. It is time to be strong. Not strong enough to endure more of his bad behavior. Strong enough to say enough is enough. Ok just my opinion. Hope you still love me.