I am DB-ing again, but this time it isn't my Husband it is my D20, she will be 21 next month.
She has turned into such a rude and disrespectful person, and I am the target of all of her spew.
Nothing I do is ever good enough for her, she looks at me with such contempt and speaks to me as if I am totally beneath her.
She recently broke up with her boyfriend, who cheated on her. I didn't like him anyway, and told her that when I first met him. I did keep my mouth shut and one day I got a call telling me that I was right about him.
During the relationship she was in she had decided to share all of our family's dirty laundry regarding the MLC episode and all of the crap our family had gone through.
I did receive a phone call from the little [censored] telling me that I ought to be ashamed of myself for allowing my Husband to put our family through hell and then allow him to come home again. He told me that I was the one who caused all of S20's issues.
And yes I did tell him what I thought of him at that time, and told him that we could have this conversation in 20 years after he had experienced a little more growing up.
I remember being her age, and I also thought I knew it all, but I was Married, and I had a child and another one on the way. I didn't have parents to help me out of my messes.
Perhaps I have spoiled her, maybe I overcompensated when my Husband was gone, I have no idea. She was an amazing support to me when I was alone with all of the younger kids, she helped me out so much.
She has always been a really great Daughter, she gets good grades in College,she has always worked, doesn't do drugs, doesn't drink or smoke or sleep around. She is very loving to her siblings and lately she and her Dad have been getting along much better.
She and my Mother have been emailing back and forth about me. My Mother is very manipulative and also has a mental illness. I have never really shared all of the details about my Mother with my children, as I thought they would eventually figure it out on their own when they are older.
My Mother has never gotten over her Divorce from my Dad, which was almost 40 years ago. To this day, I am not allowed to mention him in any way. The bitterness she holds onto is so ugly, and at times very scarey.
My Mother knows that D20 and I have been having issues and she is using it to her advantage. She even promised to send D20 money.
I am not sure what happened to my wonderful daughter.
I would appreciate your prayers and advice.
Happy New Year to all of us..........
There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.
