Anger mostly is the secondary emotion to hide the true feelings. Anger make us feel strong and in control, but what truely behind the anger is another story. To me, it was sadness, betrayed and disappointment....etc.
So true.
It may have been painful for your W to be in the house which you once shared and realize there are now two refrigerators which need turkey hands on them. Anger protects her from feeling that pain.
Originally Posted By: healthydad
Well, as she was in the house, she saw these items in the kitchen - and send me an angry email about how I kept these things from - and how she took them with her.
I emailed her back saying that I understood where she's coming from - and that I didn't have any problem with her taking the photo and the Turkey card...I just asked her to be more considerate about asking me before taking things from my home in the future.
It seems that in the past when you have pointed out her twisted thinking that it seemed to help a bit. She is defining your motives here and it might be helpful to point out to her that she cannot know why you did what you did without asking you.
I am a bit concerned that she could interpret "I understand where you're coming from" as "I understand you would be pissed that I tried to keep those things from you."
What would you think of letting her know that it sounded like she was accusing you of keeping those things from her when you were doing nothing of the sort and in fact, intended to offer them to her? Perhaps you could point out that if you were intending to keep them from her you would not leave them on the fridge knowing she would be in your house.
I think it is important that you speak up when she pretends to know your motives. Otherwise, her conviction, that she knows without asking, will strengthen. Her familiarity with Patricia Evans may help her recognize this in herself if you point it out.
