Making my own good karma!!

[Silent Chrleader]

Thanks, BM, for the compliment. I don't know how "amazing" I am. I often have a hard time with the "game playing" that DBing seems to entail sometimes, although I do understand the reasons for the different "techniques". I'm just essentially a very up-front person, and I really have to work hard to keep my big mouth shut!!

I am really in a dilema of how to handle things with J (male friend at work). I'm really afraid actually. My heart tells me that I can't have been wrong for 27 years, and with time, H will realize that throwing away our M is a mistake. J just got out of a 5 year relationship and is lonely too and we have fun talking. It's just so strange. I've been with H since I was 17 and it feels funny going out for drinks with "another guy". Mind you, I've had male friends before, but then there was a definite line drawn, so I felt compfortable. Now.....I'm afraid. Is that weird? I know that I am in control of what I do and don't do, and J is very much a gentleman. I just don't want to get in too deep without meaning to, but nor do I want to pass up on some happiness I could have by "waiting around" for H.

Does anyone have any advice on this issue?