Cleaning out Clutter - ? For Men

[MsMelancoly]

Still thinking about this question & want to write down my thoughts.

"What would he have to do to make you take him back? What change would you like to see in him ?"

We all here in DBLand have grown and have realized that love, ah love & trust alone cannot solve all M problems. (So nieve - but that was me thoughts). I wonder as our spouses wander around, out there in OZ still trudging through the forest looking for the yellow brick road .... did we move it on them?? After DB is just getting your spouse back, is that not enough anymore? Did we change the rules?? Or move the yellow brick road & because they have not, cannot change thye will not be able to find it? (Have our standards so to speak - changed - while theirs stay the same)?

Could My H ever make the changes that I need? Truly, I don't know???