Its up to you to provide your husband with the incentive to recover. I would expect my wife to do all the work in recovery. Let the counselers deal with what was missing in your relationship that you felt left you vulnerable to other men.
I posted on your Newcomer's thread as well. I would encourage anyone reading this thread to read that one too, as it gives some more details about the H's drinking.
This is more complicated than she stated here. There ain't no way she's going to be able to "do all the work" for recovery and she shouldn't have to.
