ah yes, finding things to get angry about. STBX does the same. latest was the fact i got a Christmas tree this year, when other years i was content to do without.

damned if you do, damned if you dont is what i see. if i didnt get a tree she'd complain i dont care about my D3's Christmas. but i did get one so she complained i didnt before.

i think thats part of the continual bastadization of our characters. any positive changes i make in myself she has to break down. any faults i havent fixed she has to make me aware of. all of this to validate her actions.

so be it. i know my reasons and have nothing to feel guilty about. i'm making my house my own.

you cant explain your reasons to her, she wouldnt allow herself to understand.

"In a ham and eggs breakfast, the hen is involved, but the pig is committed".