Now I guess I'm numb all over again. The one thing that gives me joy (D4) actually had to comfort her own mommy yesterday. I cried and slept all day. I tried to keep it away from her but it wasn't easy.
Well, I'm ready for the feedback. I'm ready for the....You should have seen it coming....
So glad you posted Sue!!! My feedback is that it sounds like you are blaming yourself. I don't think you should!!! I mean what are you guilty of: wanting to believe the best in your H, wanting to hold the family together for your D4, being loyal and faithful and wanting to save your marriage. I mean everyone here is trying to do the same thing you know. I don't think you should blame yourself for the actions of your H. You can't do a marriage when only one person is doing all the work and there are 3 in the R and all that stuff.
You yourself posted for me to stop doing it when I went through a guilty phase, saying "I shoulda, I coulda,...You did what you thought was best at the time for your family. Continue to do that and things will work out ok in the end. I do think you've given your H as many chances as he deserves, but I'm sure you already know that. We love you, Sue!!! Karen
