W is usually cold, distant, and emotionless towards me - I'm sure she's pouring out tears and emotions on OM.
I'm frustrated at myself - I complain to myself that W is just "not there" and then have an opportunity where she opens up to ME, is vulnerable emotionally, and I use it to get in a couple of moral cheap shots. She was not a whiny crybaby trying to get her way - she absolutely is not like that, never has.
I realize it would have been a drop in the bucket to have been nice there, but you have to start with a single drop, I guess.
Of course, the opposite is also true - I'm sure the very next number she dialed was OM, and he probably stepped right in, validated her feelings, said lots of coochy-coo things. Sigh, round one, I lose.
Also, I do mention OM on here, but am not obsessing - I just see him as another person that is taking down my wife. I had this sort of arrogant attitude that he didn't matter because I was the H, and he was just some guy - but that's a pretty stupid way to look at it, and that'll lose you your marriage real quick! I have to see him as basically competition. All he really is a way for me to keep myself in line, because I know I have to work 10 times harder, and he barely has to do anything. I do not mention OM to W.
My lesson for the month - now, I have to wait three weeks until she gets over it.
