FIB--as a nurse, and as a discarded spouse, I have a real sense of what you're feeling. And wow--your wife is such a fool for throwing her family, and YOU, under the train of her narcissism. You are truly a good person, and you truly "get it." So rare.
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012